Do not disturb

When it comes to writing, I send the cameras packing when things progress sexually with my characters. Why do I put out the “do not disturb sign”? Because for me, the hottest moments are before the couple has sex. Yes, sex sells, but unresolved sexual tension keeps you invested, on the edge of your seat, waiting. Anticipation is always more exciting than the reality of the thing you are anticipating. There is even some science to back this up. Read about this interesting vacation study.

Growing up I loved old movies, where the hottest scenes were before the kiss. Witty banter and small significant touches and looks made sparks fly. The scene with Jimmy Stewart and Donna Reed in “It’s a Wonderful Life”, where they are on the phone together, right before they kiss, is totally charged! It is HOT! Another example are the characters Mulder and Scully, who made holding hands hotter than the ever popular “Friends” Ross and Rachel kiss. In my opinion at least.

Don’t get me wrong, I love a good romance novel, but I always enjoyed the unresolved sexual tension and the build up to the romantic event better than the main event. Am I an old-fashion girl? Naive, out of touch, with what the world of readers want? Maybe. But I like to believe that there are others out there, that like me still get giddy over the little things: a longing look across the room, a shy smile or an innocent touch of the hand.

What are your thoughts and opinions on this? Chime in!